Have you seen the new Netflix series “Girl Boss”?
I won’t tell you that I spent a BEAUTIFUL Saturday binge watching the entire series while trying out new face and hair masks and pigging out on Blue Bell Homemade Vanilla ice cream, but I did watch it. All of it.
There was something refreshing about the series. It took a very long time for me to put my finger on it, but I realized what it was during the whole Cava website debacle (I’ll spare the details in case you haven’t finished it yet). Sophia isn’t just a badass woman creating an opportunity for herself, she’s me. Granted I haven’t quite hit the level of success that she has, but I could see so much of myself in her.
1. Her Parents
Sophia’s parents are reversed in my life. Her father (more like my mother) didn’t really understand her vision and it hurt. Sophia really needed her dad to see her as an adult, and understand that she’s working on something major and it’s not just a hobby. In case you missed it, I have a podcast. Listen to “CockTales: Dirty Discussions” This podcast has taken so much work and taken up so much of my time. It really has been a labor of love. I would even say it’s like my baby. More on the later. Her mom was absent and then when she came on I honestly didn’t pay much attention to her because she annoyed me so much! She was so selfish and so consumed in her own life, staying young, and dating. Yea.
2. Her “I’ll Do It Myself” Attitude
Somewhere along the way I developed it a “F8@% it I’ll do it myself” attitude. And from the start of the series we’ve seen a ton of “f*** it, I’ll do it” moments. I’m a control freak. I know I am and there’s not much I plan to do about it. Honestly, there’s something about coming up with an idea, and really turning that idea into a real thing. I love the process, and I protect my project. No one else will care about it like I will. It’s like my baby, and we know how protective mothers can be. There have been times when I’ve tried to loosen my grip and allow someone else the freedom to take on responsibilities. That was way too stressful for me. Especially once I saw the finished product. Now on “Girl Boss” there were times when Annie did a good job with taking initiative and making it happen and Sophia flipped out. I can’t say I’ve had a moment quite like that but for those of you out there who may be dealing with a control freak, try to understand how sensitive they may be to the project. Just a tip.
3. Just Believe In Me
I’ve never truly been interested in a traditional career path. There was a phase I went through when I thought I wanted to be a lawyer, but I decided it would be better for me to play a lawyer on TV instead of actually becoming one. Now I work in media. I have a podcast, I work in radio full time, and I’m developing a production company. These are things that don’t have clear cut paths to success because they are ever changing.
It gets frustrating talking to people who do not understand the plight of someone who works in entertainment or media, or even the challenges that come with being an entrepreneur. Sure, there are things that I can do that have less risk, but this is what I’m passionate about. And when the days are really tough, sometimes you just need your friends and family to truly believe in you, and not just say it, but show it. In Girl Boss, Sophia struggled with people actually believing in her. From the other vintage store owners, to her family, and even friends. The road to the top can be lonely, but it doesn’t have to be.
The past few months have honestly been very stressful for me. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve cried for no reason. It took me like two and a half weeks to even write this post because I was too emotional. I wanted to quit and just go back to doing boring work for a much bigger check, or just move to Nova Scotia and live on a farm. The point is, Sophia was pretty crazy and hard to deal with. Most people with big dreams who are willing to do whatever it takes to achieve them are going to be hard to deal with.
As I watched her story unfold I found many parallels between her life and mine. It was a great watch, even if her company did file bankruptcy recently, and I think every control freak, every woman with a “fuck it I’ll do it myself” attitude, and every woman with a dream your friends and family may not get should absolutely watch this series. When you watch, leave a comment and let me know what you thought.
Watch Girl Boss here: Netflix: Girl Boss